Healing the Inner Child
- Starseed Holistic Institute
- Aug 24, 2025
- 3 min read
Updated: Sep 13, 2025
Have you listened to your Inner Child lately? - (Includes Self-Assessment)
We all carry within us an “inner child” — a part of our psyche that holds childhood experiences, memories, and emotions. This inner child is not limited to childhood alone; it also connects to past lives and ancestral memories, shaping how we feel, react, and relate to others today.
When our inner child is nurtured, we experience joy, creativity, and love. But when this inner child is wounded, it may carry fear, rejection, or limiting beliefs that hold us back from living fully. Recognizing and healing these aspects is an essential step in awakening to a more conscious and loving life.
The Many Faces of the Inner Child
🪷 Wounded Child
Description: Carries traumas, neglect, or lack of love. Behaviors: Fear, insecurity, low self-esteem, difficulty trusting others.Needs: Healing, recognition of pain, emotional safety.
Journal Prompt: Write about a time you felt unloved or unseen. What would you say today to comfort that child version of you?
🪷 Abandoned Child
Description: Feels forgotten or unworthy of love. Behaviors: Emptiness, fear of rejection, emotional neediness.Needs: Acceptance, reconnection, self-love.
Journal Prompt: Imagine your abandoned child is sitting across from you. What words of love and reassurance do they most need to hear?
🪷 Rebel Child
Description: Resists rules and authority. Behaviors: Disobedience, defiance, self-sabotage.Needs: Understanding, freedom, safe expression.
Journal Prompt: Recall a time you rebelled or resisted. What truth were you really trying to protect?
🪷 Joyful Child
Description: Playful, spontaneous, creative. Behaviors: Laughter, creativity, enthusiasm.Needs: Space for joy and free expression.
Journal Prompt: When was the last time you allowed yourself to play freely? How can you invite more joy into your life now?
🪷 Fearful Child
Description: Lives with anxiety and insecurity.Behaviors: Avoidance, panic, withdrawal.Needs: Protection, calm, emotional safety.
Journal Prompt: What fear still lingers within you from childhood? What safe steps could you take today to begin facing it with compassion?
🪷 Perfectionist Child
Description: Strives to be flawless to feel loved. Behaviors: Self-demand, procrastination, fear of failure.Needs: Self-compassion, freedom to make mistakes.
Journal Prompt: Write about a time when you felt you had to be perfect. What would you say to remind yourself that mistakes are part of growth?
🪷 Conformist Child
Description: Hides to avoid conflict, silences their voice. Behaviors: Compliance, difficulty expressing needs.Needs: Encouragement, autonomy, assertiveness.
Journal Prompt: Think of a situation where you stayed quiet instead of speaking your truth. What would your inner child have said if they felt safe?
🪷 Creative Child
Description: Holds imagination and innovation. Behaviors: Daydreaming, inventing, exploring new ways.Needs: Freedom to experiment, support for ideas.
Journal Prompt: What creative dream did you silence in the past? How can you give yourself permission to explore it now?
How Is Your Inner Child Doing? – Self-Assessment
Answer each question with: A = Yes | B = Sometimes | C = No
Do you find it hard to trust people?
Do you feel you need to please others to be accepted?
Do you hold on to resentments from the past?
Do you fear rejection or abandonment?
Do you feel you have to work very hard to prove your worth?
Do you constantly criticize yourself, even when you do something well?
Do you feel like you carry an emotional weight or sadness you can’t explain?
Do you notice repeating patterns of self-sabotage in your life?
Do you feel that something from your past still hurts you?
When something goes wrong, how do you react?
Do you feel you need to hide your feelings to avoid judgment?
Do you have difficulty saying “no”?
Do you feel the need to always be in control of situations?
Do you feel disconnected from who you truly are?
Do you struggle to forgive yourself and others?
Scoring
A = 3 points
B = 2 points
C = 1 point
Results:
15–24 points: Your inner child is mostly balanced, but some areas need care.
25–34 points: Your inner child carries wounds that need healing. Pay attention to the themes that stood out.
35–45 points: Your inner child is deeply wounded, affecting many areas of your life. Healing work is highly recommended.
Reflection for Healing
Healing the inner child is about reclaiming your wholeness in the present. By journaling, meditating, or simply listening with compassion, you begin to restore the connection to your most authentic self.
Ask yourself today: Which inner child needs my attention right now?Offer them love, and you will feel the shift toward freedom, joy, and deeper connection with your true essence.
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With love and light,
Raquel Wilson
Holistic Practitioner at Starseed Holistic Institute
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